Have kids. The end.
I’m kidding! (sort of). For as long as I can remember, I have always been a night owl. Unfortunately that is usually paired with being an awful morning person. It’s true that my kids started getting me up earlier than usual, but I wanted to start enjoying the morning instead of the usual dread. I had to make a conscious effort every single day especially since going back to work. But hey! I’d call myself a morning person now. Here’s how I became a morning person in 3 simple(-ish) steps.
Do not give up! It’s been said it takes 30 days to form a habit. Pick a time and stick to do. Get out of bed even though you’re tired. Just do not give up and get yo’self out of bed.
It’s easy to keep a schedule throughout the work week, but keep the same schedule on the weekends until you’re in a solid routine. You don’t want to take a step forward for 5 days only to have to start all over again on Monday because you cheated with Saturday and Sunday. I’m not saying you can’t ever sleep in, but until a more solid foundation is built you’ll need to get up on the weekends.
My mornings used to be chaos. Straight madness. I try to do as much as I can the night before to lessen my load in the morning. Prep the coffee, make my lunch, have an idea of what I’ll be wearing, get my work bag together, make sure the diaper bag is ready for our sitter. Make sure the car seats are in the correct car. Washing my hair before bed cuts at least 15-20 minutes off my morning. Lay the kiddos clothes out. Doing just a few of those items takes a huge weight off my shoulders for the morning. Instead of rushing around I can actually enjoy the time I have to myself in the morning. Which leads me to number 3…
DEDICATED “ME” TIME.
Rachel Hollis lays out 5 ways to “thrive” and challenges her readers to give it a go to be a better version of themselves. When I read her explanation of number 2, which is ironically titled “Wake UP Earlier”, I had a very big ‘ah-ha’ moment. While I was a stay at home mom, I would just wake up whenever my kids woke me up first. Or if by some grace they slept past 7a, usually my internal clock woke me up. I was always waking up to little humans who would sometimes wake up moody & crying. So right from the start, my day started hectic. I was trying to take care of the dog, make coffee for myself, change & feed the kids. From the moment I opened my eyes, I was on the go. When I read this part, I asked myself why don’t I do that? It’s been life changing.
While Rachel Hollis recommends giving yourself an extra hour in the morning, I find that an extra 15 minutes works just as effectively. That also keeps me from waking up at 3:30a which is something I truly have no desire to do. I set aside at least 15 minutes of my morning to just enjoy something. It’s usually something simple as just enjoying my coffee while it’s hot in the stillness of the morning. I don’t allow myself to think about my to-do list. I just allow myself to do something that brings me straight joy. Often, I’ll play soft music while the coffee brews and I pop a waffle in the toaster or some blueberries in a bowl. Sometimes I lay awake in bed and pray while stretching. Whatever it is, take the time to do something for yourself, even if it’s just for a few minutes.
Sure, this method is absolutely not fool-proof. There are days when my kiddos need me in the middle of the night or there aren’t just enough hours in the day so I am exhausted by the time morning rolls around. Sometimes I hit the snooze button and say heck with my 15 minutes; I’ll take them in snooze format. And that’s ok. I’ve learned to give myself a little grace when I need it. Sometimes that’s the best thing I can do for myself in the morning.